The Spring Equinox and The Softening of Womanhood: Releasing the Superwoman Cape
Spring is a season of renewal, balance, and rebirth. A time when nature itself reminds us that cycles of rest and growth are divine law. Yet, for so many high-functioning Black women, softness still feels like a luxury we can’t afford. We’ve been taught that our strength is our survival, that our worth is in our work, and that rest must be earned. But beloved, nature moves differently.
The Spring Equinox, a time of equal light and darkness, is an invitation; a divine reminder that harmony is possible. That you can be both strong and soft. That your capacity for resilience is not diminished by your right to rest. And most importantly, that your womanhood is not defined by how much you endure but by how well you allow yourself to bloom.
The Superwoman Schema & The Softening of Femininity
The Superwoman Schema was a survival strategy passed down to us by the women who came before, women who didn’t have the privilege of softness. They carried the world on their backs, and we’ve done the same, thinking it’s the only way to be worthy, to be safe, to be seen. But that weight? It’s not a badge of honor. It’s a burden we no longer have to hold alone.
Spring asks us to unlearn. To soften. To welcome ease and recognize that we are not just here to survive, but to experience joy, love, and full-bodied presence.
So, how do we step into this new season and let go of the weight?
Spring Equinox Rituals for Releasing & Softening
Here are three intentional ways to shift out of survival mode and into a season of divine balance:
1. Clear Space, Inside & Out
Spring cleaning isn’t just about your home; it’s about your spirit, too.
Declutter your space: Let go of the things that no longer serve you. Clothes that hold memories of obligation. Papers that carry the energy of burnout. Create space for softness.
Declutter your mind: Journal on this question: What am I carrying that no longer belongs to me? Name the burdens. Acknowledge their weight. And then, release them.
2. Practice Receiving Without Earning
So many of us only feel comfortable when we’re giving; whether it’s our energy, time, or labor. But balance means learning to receive, too.
Small practice: The next time someone offers to help you, say yes without guilt, without over-explaining, without offering something in return. Just let yourself receive.
Reflection: What parts of me feel unworthy of ease? Who taught me that I had to struggle to be deserving?
3. Create a Softness Ritual
Femininity isn’t about perfection; it’s about allowing yourself to be in flow. Create a daily or weekly practice that reminds your body and spirit that you deserve softness.
A slow morning with tea and no phone.
A bath where you speak affirmations over yourself.
A movement practice that feels like release instead of control.
A moment of stillness where you simply exist, without fixing, doing, or proving.
Affirming a New Season
As we step into spring, let this be the season where you stop proving and start being. Where you exchange exhaustion for embodiment. Where you allow yourself to exist in your full feminine energy—not as something weak, but as something sacred.
🌿 Affirmation for This Season:
"I no longer carry what was never mine to hold. I welcome ease, rest, and the fullness of my womanhood with open arms."
Let this be the season you finally allow yourself to bloom. 🌸✨